Free yourself, cut the strings

Photo by Vicki Harris

Photo by Vicki Harris

Cut the strings.

Don't be someone's puppet all of your life.

Do you find yourself responding or reacting negatively every time someone says something about you or to you that you dislike?

Think about it. Each negative response or reaction is as if the other person is manipulating particular strings and watching you dance. Whenever we don't control our anger, it controls us.

In this way, we become like puppets. We forfeit our opportunity to respond with, and of our own intent. So, rather than creating a meaningful exchange, we are reduced to the script of the puppeteers, acting impulsively and behaving childishly.

There is a certain level of growth that must take place in one's life before he or she is able to "stop, think, and do something different" than what he or she has always done. It is often a difficult task to try to unlearn the wrong way to do something and to replace it with the positive alternative. Nonetheless, it can be achieved.

As situations arise in the workplace, at home, or anywhere today, that, more or less, "rub you the wrong way", I want you to say to yourself, "I am not a puppet, I need to stop, think, and do something differently here." Choose your response. Intend your reaction.

"No man is free who is not master of himself", is a quote about freedom that I read once. It is an incredibly empowering thing to know that you are in control of you.

Are you a person who never makes his or her own decisions and always lets someone else make up your mind?

If so, it is time that you find the scissors and cut those strings.

If music is what you are passionate about, then respectfully inform your parents that you will be majoring in music rather than in pre-law. Don't fall victim to living out someone else's dream while your own withers away. Dream your own dreams. Live your own life.

Just because you are female doesn't mean that you have to wear make-up, dresses, and tight fitting jeans to be feminine. Maybe you are not feminine at all. So what if you don't somehow "fit" into the "perfect" box that others have created for you? Tear down the walls of that box. Be your own person. Embrace your identity.

If you are allowing your hurt from past relationships to dictate the way you love, how much you trust, and the way you respond to your current partner, then you need to cut the strings.

In life, each of us has to take personal responsibility for our own actions and for our own happiness. Each of us has to find our own way, make our own mistakes, and learn our own lessons. Each of us has to find our own courage to face our own fears. Each of us has to find our own voices and speak our own words.

Whether it is learning to handle conflict better, or deciding upon whether or not to do something, each of us must live our lives for ourselves and not at the hand of other people.

Cut the strings and experience being free.

Be encouraged.

Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at ln_dunn@yahoo.com.