When my brother, sister and I were kids, to eat a delicious home-cooked meal whenever we wanted was expected. Mom would cook every day and all we had to do was eat.
Man, do things change when you grow up.
Once we had reached a certain age, my mom had decided that she did not have any more babies in the house. This meant that we would have to, as she would put it, "fend for ourselves."
It is hilarious thinking back on those times. I still remember how my mom would respond whenever any one of us now-adult kids would say something like, "Ma, I'm hungry."
She would look at us and say, "Well, you better get in there and cook yourself something." It would almost seem like she was joking, but her half-grin was only her way to soften the blow she was delivering.
It was a powerful blow, too, because suddenly we were never all that hungry. We would grunt and whine at her response.
"I guess you just aren't that hungry then," she would say.
It is funny how life lessons are hidden in many of our most common experiences.
So often, we want something, but don't want to go through the process to get it.
I was certainly guilty of this back then. I just wanted to eat. No labor. Sadly, many of us still have that mindset today. I have learned though, that there are very few things we can accomplish without going through a process.
Most things in life involve a process. Things such as earning a degree, buying a home, starting a business, writing a paper or book, and even something as simple as getting your hair done all involve a process. A process that takes us from a beginning point where things may feel overwhelming, to a point of completion where you feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. It is my thinking that that sense of accomplishment and pride we feel is not because we now have our degree, own our home or business, have a finished manuscript or that we look good. Rather, it is because our minds reflect on our journey to that place or moment in our lives and it is the journey that makes what we have accomplished something to be proud of.
Some people have grasped this idea and have worked diligently to accomplish what they have and to own the things they own. They have undergone the process. Still, those who have not, admire the things, want the things, pray for the things, but not the process.
The process is not always a difficult one. Sometimes we have to allow ourselves to be led to take certain steps and when we do this, the process can feel easier. However, sometimes the thing that you want to acquire or the task that you want to accomplish may require that you dig deep with determination so that you are able to stay the course. This is actually a part of the process.
Having to go through various steps, to experience setbacks, starting over and the range of emotions that can go along with the process can be trying. The thought of the process can cause you to question whether or not your goal matters that much to you. Only you can answer that.
Just how "hungry" are you?
Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at firstname.lastname@example.org.