Look forward to what's next in life

Photo by Vicki Harris

Photo by Vicki Harris

Have you ever held .364onto a favorite dress or pair of jeans that no longer fit you, but for one reason or another, you just couldn't bring yourself to let them go?

.364It is an understandable experience. Perhaps you hold on to the items because you believe that you can or will wear them again or maybe they hold some kind of value to you.

Interestingly, it is not always clothing that we like to hold on to; oftentimes, it is relationships. Just like that dress or those pair of jeans, there are particular relationships in our lives that no longer fit, but we just can't bring ourselves to let them go. Relationships are those connections that we have with other people to include friends, colleagues, or significant others. Sometimes we grow attached to or comfortable in the various relationships and when the time comes in our lives for either the other person or ourselves to move forward, the experience can be really quite difficult.

Could you be hanging on to something or someone that no longer fits with where you are or where you are going in your life?

Our relationships with others in our lives can be full of purpose and serve so many great functions. Alternatively, they can be rather injurious to our personal and professional growth and overall well-being. Whether or not the relationship has been experienced as a good one or a not so good one, getting to the place where we can let it go can still be difficult. I think that part of the reason for this is that we sometimes gain a sense of security, among other things, in various ways from the relationships we have with other people.

Our relationships can be much like that favorite dress or pair of jeans that made us feel beautiful or sexy but no longer fit, or those pajamas that make us feel so good and comfortable, but are worn and holey. Undoubtedly, that dress and those jeans and pajamas served you well, but as is the case with some of the relationships you have, it is time now to consider letting them go.

Sometimes people, even those we love dearly, enter our lives for only a period of time. It can be hard to let go, so, instead, we try to hang onto them. I believe that we experience growth in multiple aspects of our being when we are able to accept that letting go isn't about loss, but, in fact, about gain through embracing what awaits us.

Good, bad, challenging, or any combination of these, our relationships with others can bring a lot into our lives. I think that it is important to understand that should the time come for those relationships to end or to change, it does not mean that you have to let go of the gifts or good things that came out of that relationship or connection.

The relationships or connections we form in life will serve us in different ways, for different reasons, and at different times. Sometimes those relationships or connections will change and reach a point where they no longer fit or be so comfortable that you will have a hard time noticing that it is time to move on.

Go ahead and embrace what's next for your life.

Be encouraged.

.364Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at ln_dunn@yahoo.com.