As I was thinking about what to share with you this week, I was inspired by a phrase in a song I heard: “Your delay is not a denial.”
It is impossible for me to speak to your unique situation and I don’t assume that it is necessary that I do so. As you think about the hopes, goals, and dreams you have that have not yet come to fruition and you are tempted to feel defeated, know that your delay is not a denial.
What you’ve been waiting for is on the schedule it should be. You have to do the work of positioning yourself to be ready to assume the role and responsibility of what’s coming. Sometimes delays are about preparation. Sometimes delays are about teaching patience.
Delays can be a part of your process; a part of the journey of defining who you are, but they are not an indication that you have been denied your hopes, goals, and dreams. Delays are temporary periods that are different for different individuals. If you make the mistake of regarding a delay as a permanent position, you are likely to lose sight of the things you wanted for your life. You cannot let delays be a distraction. They should increase the amount of attention you pay to what’s going on in your life.
Maybe it has been a long time coming and you’ve reasoned that it is not going to happen for you, but that is only “true” if you accept it as “truth.” So often we put limits — age limits and time limits — on when we can accomplish a goal or fulfill a dream. That’s no good because those kinds of limits are arbitrary, voluntary barriers we impose on ourselves.
Detours can cause delays and that is OK. The important thing to remember is that if you stay the course and see it through, you will arrive at your destination. As you think about your particular goals, hopes, and dreams and the setbacks you might have had, remember that you are right where you should be at this stage of the process. Things can change in an instant in your favor, so use your delay to prepare rather than to despair.
Whatever it is that you want for your life began as a seed that was planted in your heart and mind. You have to nurture and protect your dreams so that they are able to withstand false starts, setbacks, detours, negative opinion, so forth and so on. I believe that what has been planted inside of you has not died. The seed is connected to your purpose and it is getting ready to come to fruition. It is not over.
“Your delay is not a denial.” Be encouraged.
Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at firstname.lastname@example.org.