Some people call them God winks, tiny gestures that fill your heart with reassurance. Coincidental nods at just the right moment that make you smile or sigh in realization that someone out there, up there, is looking out for you.
Feeling overwhelmed recently, I was looking for a sign, something to help me clear my head. A deep breath. Eyes closed. I relished just a moment's peace, a calm within a tiny storm. Silence -- but only for a moment.
The soft, almost inaudible tinkling sound my computer makes when I have a new message interrupted my quiet. And there it was. My God wink.
It came in the form of an email, one from an old friend I haven't seen in a long, long while. The subject line was simply "Hope you're having a good day." I opened it up and this is what I found.
How to live well
Drink plenty of water. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy. Play more games. Read more books. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Sleep for seven hours. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment. Don't overdo. Keep your limits. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
Dream more while you are awake. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. Smile and laugh more. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Call your family often. Each day give something good to others. Forgive everyone for everything. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of six. Try to make at least three people smile each day. What other people think of you is none of your business. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
Do the right thing! Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
The best is yet to come.
Simple words with monumental meaning. I took a deep breath. My eyes were wide open. I felt much better. An overwhelming day had been turned around and all because of a coincidental nod from an old friend I haven't seen in a long, long time.
My God wink.
Hope you're having a good day. Live well.
Contact columnist Mandy Flynn at flyn1862bellsouth.net.