What lies have you believed?
I pose this question to you, the reader, based on an inspiring therapy consultation session I witnessed which was led by Darren Moore a clinical practicum supervisor and program instructor at Valdosta State University. He, true to his provocative therapeutic style, though in context of an established rapport, challenged a client’s view of herself with an unapologetic declaration that what she had been told about herself by family and others was a LIE.
This was a profound moment in the session for many different reasons, I suppose, but from where I sat, the principal meaning of that moment rang out in my heart, mind, and ears as being about one thing in particular-freedom.
As I reflected on instructor Moore’s words and the impact that they had on the client, I felt compelled to share my reflections with you.
I saw an image of words that came together to form lies that wrapped themselves around and around people’s bodies like an out of control weed, acting as a chain, with its roots running all throughout their minds. This was interesting because it was there in the mind, where the roots thrived, that I saw the lock. It was not draped around the body on the outside; instead it was buried in the mind on the inside. This, I reasoned, is why one can’t buy certain clothes or other material items, or wear his/her hair a particular way, get a certain job, or acquire a prestigious title to free him/herself from the bondage of lies. That stuff just covers up the weed/chain to make one appear to be free on the outside. Underneath it all, one is still bound. We have to get to the root of the matter, and that means unlocking it from the mind, on the inside, so that we can ultimately be free.
The lock, being located in the mind, was a symbol, as I saw it. It symbolized belief. It indicated to me that the lies, in and of themselves, hold no significant power. It is only when we, as individuals, begin to believe them that they gain their power and grip over us.
We are imprisoned by our own thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. Unfortunately, more often than not, it is due to our belief in the lies other people have told us. The lies people tell us about our capability, value, or worth are coated in deception. They may tell you that you aren’t talented enough, smart enough, or attractive enough. They may tell you that you aren’t cut out for something you want to accomplish. They might even tell you that you’ve made too many mistakes and that it is too late for you.
If you have believed these lies throughout, or at any point in your life, there is likely to be evidence of such belief manifesting itself through certain behaviors that you aren’t so proud of. The evidence could also be in your immobility to take steps toward creating a better situation for yourself.
You know your own unique story. I invite you to reflect on it and to consider the relationship between the story and/or picture you have of yourself and the things you’ve been told about yourself. Start to notice those parts that don’t fit for you and what you want for yourself. Those might be lies dressed in “false truth”. Don’t be fooled. Be encouraged.
Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at firstname.lastname@example.org.