Acceptance requires serenity, wisdom

Acceptance is not about giving up, but about acknowledging that which you cannot change. Acceptance is not letting go of hope. It is about allowing your faith to go where you cannot. Acceptance is not choosing to be unhappy, instead, it is choosing to live through the unhappy moments. They won’t last always.

Acceptance is not a sign of weakness, but a testament to your strength. It is much easier to hold onto things and people than it is to trust the process and release them. Acceptance is not forfeiture; it is the wisdom of surrendering for the greater good in the long term.

Acceptance is not about a loss of control, but about gaining freedom. Acceptance is not choosing to stay in bad situations that are harmful to your physical and/or mental well-being. It is accepting that you cannot change another person and choosing to leave.

Acceptance is not about lying down and taking whatever comes, but about being active in carving out your own opportunities in life. Acceptance is not wallowing in self-pity and/or defeat. It is recognizing your limitations and mistakes and using them to continue on toward your goals and purpose in life.

Acceptance is not about forgetting the loved one you’ve lost, but about using your memories of your time together to help you through. Acceptance is not simply moving on with your life after your loss, it is about not being afraid to still cry and hurt along the way. Acceptance is realizing that you cannot change what is done or the nature of a relationship with someone you’ve lost, but that you can do something different with those you have left.

Acceptance is not a cowardly move out of fear, but a courageous decision in spite of fear. Acceptance is not a penalty or punishment forced upon you, but an opportunity offered to you. Acceptance does not bind, instead, it frees. Acceptance is not adopting an “anything goes” perspective, but about being open to the perspective of others. Acceptance does not require you to lose yourself or deny who you are or what you believe in order to embrace another person who is different.

Acceptance is about being aware of who you are and, at the same time, being willing to locate parts of yourself in the experiences and stories of others who differ from you. Acceptance connects us to ourselves and our experiences as well as to one another.

Acceptance is not about losing hoping for world peace, but about finding peace with oneself. When we are at peace with ourselves, it becomes easier to be at peace with others around us.

Acceptance is another one of life’s healing balms. We can give it to ourselves and to one another. And, as we do, we might find that the gaps between our pain and our joy, our regrets and our recovery, our past and our future, our hate and our understanding might be bridged.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference — Reinhold Niebuhr.

Be encouraged.

Contact columnist LaTonya Dunn at ln_dunn@yahoo.com.


david_griner 3 years, 2 months ago

This was a well written article that seems like it would be appropriate in a group therapy setting. I wonder if it will be used in such a manner?


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