In matters of love, apply the Golden Rule

Guest Columnist

John Wallace

John Wallace

When I was a young man, living in San Diego, I met my wife. She was the friend of a friend of a friend. We met, sparks commenced and our hearts caught on fire.

We were both from New York and laughed at the same things. She said I was the first one out there that didn't make fun of her accent. I said, "What accent?"

After a year or so, I thought I could see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl. I wondered if she would be crazy enough to marry me. And 28 years ago, she did. We have traveled the world together and met thousands of people, yet she is the only one that, when I say, "Remember when we were here with these people and we ..." and she can finish the sentence for me.

We haven't had separate lives in so long we have become intertwined into the same person. She is a part of "me." Like two trees that have grown up next to each other, we have wrapped ourselves into one person. I remember hearing that, with old couples, when one dies, the other goes right behind them. Now I think I understand. It's doesn't just feel like half of you died, half of you did die.

But I wouldn't change a thing about us. I wish everyone could have what we have.

They say half of all marriages end in divorce. I guess they didn't get married for the right reasons. I always thought it was a matter of trust. If you knew that, no matter what happened, this person had your back, it's the two of you against the world, then don't let them get away, marry him/her as fast as you can.

Traditionally, marriage has always been between a man and a woman. But what if two guys or two girls felt that way about each other? They want to spend the rest of their lives together. If we have that right, shouldn't they?

I don't need to know what goes on behind their closed doors and they don't need to know what goes on behind mine. I can't imagine why they would want to do the things they do, but I'm sure they feel the same way about me. As long as they don't interfere with how I live my life, I apply the Golden Rule.

Some people say, "The Bible says it's an abomination." In Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus says that Moses says that God says that,"lying with mankind as with womenkind is an abomination." If God feels so strongly about this, why is it not in the Ten Commandments? It mentions the sinfulness of adultery and coveting your neighbor's wife. Did Jesus preach about how wrong it was? Not once.

Jesus did speak about treating your brothers as you yourself would want to be treated. In Matthew 7:1, "Judge not, lest ye be judged." Or Matthew 7:12: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." After reading Leviticus, you might also consider reading the words of Jesus at the Sermon of the Mount as quoted in Matthew, chapters 5:1 through 7:29.

Who among us are fit to judge another? I don't know about you, but I'm no better than anybody else. I have the same rights as you. No more, no less. And that seems fair.

I know some gay people and, in most ways, they are just like you and I. You may already know a gay person and know what I am talking about. And then there are those few gays I cannot stand to be around. But I feel that way around a few straight people, too. Some people say gay marriage threatens traditional marriage. I say, only if one of you is gay.

H.P. Lovecraft said, "The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear. And the oldest and strongest fear is the fear of the unknown."

Bob Dylan said, "Don't criticize what you don't understand."

Perhaps if you treated others as you would like to be treated, you would not deny them the happiness you enjoy. The Buddhists say, "If something makes you suffer, let it go." Don't waste your time in hate and denial. Use it to enjoy the wonderfulness that is your life.

John Wallace lives in Leesburg and works in the post office.