Give up self-pity and give time to others
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When most of us experience tough times, it becomes difficult to see past our own circumstances. We may shut down and feel sorry for ourselves or even angry at others.
Success comes from willingess to try again
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I believe it was Albert Einstein who defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. A seemingly simple concept, yet many of us wrestle with its unseen complexity.
Make deliberate choices in caring for yourself
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With so much going on in our lives, it is so important that we take time to take care of ourselves.
Healing is an ongoing process
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The business of healing is not a passive, inactive process in which we can simply sit back and watch time pass us by, expecting that we will somehow be restored to our pre-wounded selves. Healing is an active process.
Be careful what you ingest in mind, body
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If we are starving, we are more likely to eat anything we can find without any concern for our wellbeing, but when we are full and content, we are more selective about when and what we eat.
Be more active in your health care
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Recently I took my vehicle in for a routine service check. In the last couple of weeks, I had noticed a squealing kind of noise coming from the front end of my vehicle.
Not everyone fits the same mold
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Growing up, there were times when I didn’t always like something my mom would cook for dinner.
Even best advice can’t be forced
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Have you ever found yourself in a struggle with someone because they seem to push back every time you tried to tell them something about themselves or tell them what they needed to do?
To err is human; accept it
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To learn from a mistake effectively transforms it from mistake to life lesson.
Resisting change can hinder your progress
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I write often about change and transition and the usefulness of embracing these as opportunities for personal growth. Very often we have an oppositional relationship to change and transition where we are kicking and screaming, pushing back and resisting.
‘Letting go’ doesn’t mean forgetting
Recently while having a discussion about letting go of past mistakes, I suggested that “letting go” is often confused with “forgetting” or “pretending mistakes did not happen” and simply moving on with life.
Search for signs of life
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I am currently navigating some difficult terrain as I am facing transition in my life. It makes sense that in order to get where you need to be, you have to leave where it is you are currently.
In accepting change we can grow
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When we are moving from one place to another in our lives, we are often faced with change. In fact, we cannot get to the next place without experiencing change.
Live out your own purpose, not others
I was reminded of something recently that I felt was worth sharing and it was simply to be mindful of the value I assign to other people’s opinions and perceptions of me — positive or critical.
Don’t be silenced by discouraging voices
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As we reflect on the many important contributions to our world made by African Americans from times past and present, let us draw inspiration, courage and strength, but also curiosity. Let us be curious about what enabled them to persevere and to succeed. Let us be curious about what we have in common with people of such innovation and creativity, passion and intellect, bravery and determination.
Healthy boundaries make for a better you
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How do you take care of yourself? I pose this question so that we may take a moment to truly reflect on what is being asked.
Life’s negatives require elimination
The human body has processes by which it excretes or removes waste it has produced. These processes occur largely via the excretory and digestive systems of our bodies.
Embrace conflict as a opportunity
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Virginia Satir, a pioneer in the field of Family Therapy, once wrote that “conflict is an avenue for hope.” This is nutritious food for thought that can enrich relationships between people whether they are family members, couples, friends, or even colleagues in the workplace.
Live life behind a door if you must
If you have spent the past years of your life behind a brick wall in an effort to protect yourself by keeping all of the bad things at bay, you obviously have good reasons for doing so.
In the new year, embrace emotions
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The start of a new year has often been a time that we look forward to in hopes of starting anew in various areas of our lives. We create lists of resolutions, some realistic, some not, and we are filled with a renewed resolve to make changes for the better.
A family relationship is more than kinship
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My mother’s mother passed away recently and during the time of the funeral, so many members of her side of the family gathered together. I met some first and second cousins for the first time and saw many others, including aunts and uncles, for the first time in ages.
Growth is part of life’s journey
Watching my nephew grow remains the highlight of my life. Yep, he is still learning and still growing. In what seems like an overnight process, I have watched him grow and grow right out of diapers, clothes and shoes on into bigger and bigger sizes in each. He is 6 years old now.
Rid yourself of the negatives in life
In the last column, I briefly described the major processes of the excretory and digestive systems by which the human body rids itself of waste products and toxins.
Make the choice when it matters
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I am typically the kind of person who, in a group of my colleagues deciding where to go for lunch, would defer the decision to others based on what they wanted.
We all will have unfinished goals throughout our lives
I remember earlier on having some particular things I wanted to accomplish in my life, but I would get to a place where I would feel stuck and unable to be productive. It was quite the mystery and tough for me too because initially, I would start off super excited and motivated. My mind would be flooded with all the steps it would require to get me to where I wanted to go.
A new approach sometimes helps to solve the problems
There is this commercial where a mother tells her son that he cannot leave the dinner table before he finishes the plate of vegetables (broccoli) in front of him.
Response can have surprising results
What if we each did something different, the thing that was least expected and not part of the usual pattern of response?
Think about times when things go right
Sometimes when things are going badly for us, our thinking can become distorted and we think that things will never improve. Sometimes we believe that things are always going badly in our lives.
Acceptance requires serenity, wisdom
Acceptance is not about giving up, but about acknowledging that which you cannot change. Acceptance is not letting go of hope.
A work in progress is a positive thing
I am a work in progress in certain areas of my life. Perhaps you can identify with that for a particular area in your own life.
Get in motion toward your dreams
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Step back to see the whole picture
Sometimes, it becomes necessary in our lives that we step back from some things.
When planning’s not enough, improvise
Change is the only constant in life. This true, albeit paradoxical assertion reminds us that sometimes things will not go according to plan. We can all think of a thing or 20 that have not gone as intended.
Manage one self before giving to others
If when you go to withdraw money from your bank account and receive an “insufficient funds” message, the immediate presumption is that you have not done a good job of managing your account.
Explore your truth in reaching full potential
What is it that you are really afraid of? Is it that you won’t be good enough or fast enough? Is it that you are limited in what you know or what you can do?
When times are tough, smile and bear it
Times are still trying and money is still tight, but things are getting better. We all still have difficult days dealing with all that we have on our plates.
Don’t be blinded by the light
On a recent ride home down a dark back road, the kind where you have to use your bright lights, I noticed an interesting phenomenon.
Sometimes change can do you good
When we face difficulties in our lives that confront us with change, we don’t always take too kindly to that, and understandably so.
Storms will occur in nature and family be prepared
I was watching a news program recently and there was a story about one state’s improved emergency preparedness and management efforts in the event of a hurricane.
Stay focused and move forward in life
Graduates, Do not pawn your values. You might find that it wasn’t worth the trade you made. Stay true to who you are at your core.
In being ‘right,’ we miss ignore facts
In times of intense emotion and passion around potentially divisive issues, we are better served as individuals and as a community when we can suspend our judgment and criticism of one another and attempt, instead, to make sense of one another’s perspective.
Find your purpose and make some sparks
So often too many of us spend our lives being an iron that makes grilled cheese sandwiches. I know, just stay with me.
Sometimes in life we need second or even a third try
I believe it was Albert Einstein who defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Stop the silence when it comes to child sexual abuse
Shhh. If I had a voice I would tell you that you cannot afford to stay silent. I would ask you to please help me.
We are women stand proud
In continuous dedication to all the beautiful girls, young ladies, and young women in our communities ...
Holes left in lives difficult to fill
Dear Dad, I am writing to let you know that I am a man now. This may come as a surprise to you, but I have some things I need to say.
Mistakes can make for a learning experience
Have you ever had a boss who never had anything to say about the good work you did, but also never hesitated to come down on you on when you made a mistake or had an off day?
Choose your battles carefully
Benjamin Franklin said “remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”
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