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Lastly, it's very easy to point fingers at everyone else. But take a good solid look at yourself as well. At what point do you understand that "dominance" shouldn't be the only measure of someone's contributions to a team. And when is it ever really ok to sit here, have harsh words, and hide behind the anonymity of an online forum. Why don't you speak based on personal experience and not hearsay based on "members of the community" and "former players". A comment over the offers someone holds speaks more to pride of the community or simply conversation than anything else. Otherwise, why is ESPN, AJC, Albany Herald, Macon Telegraph and everyone else will be quick to include in a blurb on a player that "he has current offers from x, y, z, college".
Based on the use of words, sentence structure and grammar, I'm almost certain I know who post # 1 and #3 is (which is sad in its own right) but I can only comment on things I'm certain of, which I've done.
As it stands, my name is Thomas Nash. I don't have the need or urge to hide behind an anonymous message board post. Do I know Fruit and her family? Yes I do, rather well. Am I her coach during the spring and summer? Yes, I am. Have I ever experienced her to be rude (no), self-centered (no), elitist (no), passionate (yes), hard-working (yes), a little stubborn and head-strong (yes). I'm speaking from first-hand experience and not just opinion, please don't get those two confused because I know her, and coach her . I have very strong opinions as well (regarding the coaching staff, the small-mindedness of the town, the fact that an opportunity was there for others to be mentors as the adults in the situation but wasn't, etc.) but this isn't the point I'm making here. I'd rather come to the defense of someone that's getting bashed by someone undeservedly.
A teenager makes a mistake, that mistake gets corrected by her parent(s) which leads to her apologizing for her actions, but they are supportive in her decision to stand up for herself (which no matter who you are you're in your right to do). That leads to the coaching staff making an internal decision that she could either accept or not. That carries over to her making a decision to remove herself from the situation that got her upset in the first place and standing by it.
In all honesty, perhaps it would be just as easy to do some background research before being so interested in commenting. At that point if this was the Albany game she finished with 24 points on 10-23 shooting from the field for 24 points and 8 rebounds I'd imagine by whatever sense of the word dominating you may have, she still contributed mightily to the win and in general goes a long way to being a determining factor in her team's success be it good or bad. Secondly she's a very good student. Thirdly I believe the correct sequence of events is that it was the mother who was "the person from the stands" and if anyone is supposed to be the one to step in to the situation, the correct one did. To know that something like this has been brewing all year I'm not surprised that something boiled up and bubbled over. At the end of the day she is still a teenager. At the end of the day she's still someone who apologized to the team and coaching staff, not for standing up for herself, but for doing so in a manner that was most likely considered disrespectful or at the very least not the time or the place to voice her frustrations.
If this was any other time or place, with any other player - I agree in a lot of aspects that it would be and should be handled differently. I know Fruit well and to paint her as self-centered and someone that did as they pleased during games and practices isn't the right brush to use. I can't think of many who have worked as hard or improved as much in the last three years. Just like as a coach there's a time or a place for discipline, in the middle of a game when emotions are high and someone is giving their all isn't the right place to question their contributions to the team. She'll do just fine at whatever university she chooses and she'll succeed and grow to be a strong, educated, responsible young lady.
To the second poster - her home life is stable, she's from a loving and supportive family who are there through the good and the bad, and who continue to teach right from wrong. She’s been in tough positions in controlled environments so she'll understand the rewards of working through difficult situations (being homesick, learning to stand up for herself, etc.) She'll have every opportunity to make it out of her "environment". She was initially told to sit two games and after agreeing was approached with what appeared to be more of a cya ultimatum, which she disagreed to as anyone with the most basic rights has the ability to do. If someone is approached with a "do this or else" and they choose "or else" my mindset is that there has to be a strong enough feeling to choose the consequence rather than put themselves back into the same situation that premeditated it. (cont. due to word limit)
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